• Relationship Series

    Left at the Altar

    Some days I wonder what’s the worst thing that could happen to anyone. There is no one list for all, but I think being left at the altar would appear on almost everyone’s.

    Two weeks ago, the electrician came over to do some work at the house and shared with us that his cousin’s wedding, which was the next day, was about to be called off. Earlier that Friday they’d had the traditional marriage ceremony, and that was when the trouble began.

    A fight over an extra demand made by the bride’s family had sent tempers flying, shoving and punches soon took over from verbal abuse and landed them all at the police station for a resolution.

    But there’s rarely amicable resolution when a matter gets to the police. The next day there was no wedding.

    Just like that.

    Bride and groom had been in a relationship for ten years. They were living together and only wanted to formalize the union. The request of NGN50,000 from the groom’s family was not instigated by the bride. There were talks of the groom’s mother not wanting that particular woman for her son.

    The last paragraph summarises the situation until breakup. Possibly there is more, but the fact doesn’t change: After ten years of being together, the groom refuses to show up for his wedding, the bride is left practically at the altar, and it all comes to an end.

    Again, let me repeat, just like that.

    How do you begin to feel when your world crumbles like that? How do you recover?

    How does it stop being the worst day of your life?

    These are some of the questions running through my head.

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  • Reply Iyke David November 8, 2021 at 11:09 am

    So where will the bride head to now since they are already living together?

    • Reply TM David-West November 8, 2021 at 1:09 pm

      I guess she will move out. Or he will, depending on who’s responsible for the rent.

  • Reply Adefunke November 9, 2021 at 8:41 pm

    This is so heartbreaking

    The groom will definitely meet his match o. But the bride sef no try at all. Anyways, all the best for them o

    • Reply TM David-West November 10, 2021 at 4:00 pm

      I agree with you. He will meet his match.

  • Reply Roselyn November 11, 2021 at 11:50 am

    Its a crazy world that leaves one at times speechless and helpless. But come to think of it, Ten years of opening and closing for one person, washing and cleaning the house and the man/woman. running errands and what have you?

    anyway, make the young Lady repackage herself and leave that environment for her own sanity. The family she wan enter no even want her so whats the heck?

    • Reply Theo David-West November 11, 2021 at 4:41 pm

      Your suggestion of her leaving the environment was my cousin’s recommendation, too.

      But it’s really sad.

  • Reply Eluanza November 14, 2021 at 8:27 am

    This just leaves me speechless. There has to be a back story besides the 50 thousand and his mom not accepting the lady because ten years is a really long time. As sad as it is the lady should put herself together and move on.

    • Reply TM David-West November 14, 2021 at 1:34 pm

      You’re right, there’s got to be a back story.

      Whatever it is, though, it’s over between them (there’s been no reconciliation according to reports), so she has to move on.

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