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    What Will You Do?

    Good morning, folks.

    I finally came up with a short story idea and we will begin reading next week Tuesday, 9 July 2019.

    Meanwhile, I’d love to have your thoughts on this. It’s actually what the short story is about.

    Question is: If you have been married to a man for a few years without a child and he is the one with the problem:

    1. Will you leave him?
    2. Will you agree with his mother to sleep with another man so as to conceive?

    Please, no one should say number two is impossible because I know real life stories where this happened. As a matter of fact, I’ve heard of men, husbands, who ask their wives to go “outside” and conceive for them. They assure the wife she has his permission and would never be accused of adultery.

    So, it happens, and if you were in such a position, what would you do? Let me add that your in-laws have no interest in adoption. They think it will be a shame on their son.

    Looking forward to hearing from you guys. Cheers.

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  • Reply Pacesetter July 2, 2019 at 9:18 am

    It’s serious…… The two option is wrong for me. Am a good Christian and I believe God that there is nothing he can not do…….. On the other hand like you said the two is happening and it’s real. May God not give us what is beyond us

    • Reply TM David-West July 2, 2019 at 10:32 am

      Yes, it’s real and tough. I seriously think it’s not something I can do. In fact, I know I won’t leave a man because it’s his fault, but I might if it’s mine. And this is because I would love to give him the chance to have a child with someone else.

      But like you said, we pray God to help us do the right thing always.

    • Reply Iyke David July 4, 2019 at 1:13 pm

      Love this

  • Reply Favour Chinaza July 2, 2019 at 12:14 pm

    3. I won’t leave him.
    2. God gives children, yes. But I will do the second one. It will be the hardest thing for me to do in life but I will.
    I will go out and get a child but he will never know of the man. The other man in question won’t know anything about me. I will disguise myself and do it, I will then leave because I want to protect the interest of the child for future purposes.
    God forgive me.
    1. Both of you can adopt a baby and train and love him or her as your own.

    • Reply TM David-West July 2, 2019 at 2:20 pm

      Thank you so much for the honest response. Truly appreciate it.

  • Reply Datoks July 2, 2019 at 3:30 pm

    Won’t do any of the above, I believe there is nothing God cannot do, so I will wait on him.

    • Reply TM David-West July 2, 2019 at 8:21 pm

      Waiting on God, a good plan, and hopefully one has the grace to stick to it. Thanks for the contribution, Datoks

  • Reply Omotola July 3, 2019 at 9:38 am

    No, I won’t leave him.
    Naah, I can’t go for the second option either. I’ll stick with him and fight it to the end, believing God all the way. God help us all.

    • Reply TM David-West July 3, 2019 at 9:44 am

      Amen. God help us all. Thanks for the response, Omotola

  • Reply Iyke David July 4, 2019 at 1:12 pm

    Child raising is not the only reason for marriage
    None of the options above will i choose
    God’s time table is the best

    • Reply TM David-West July 4, 2019 at 10:05 pm

      Exactly, children isn’t, and shouldn’t be, the primary reason for marriage. Companionship is. And the biggest lesson is learning to wait on God.

      Thanks for your response, Iyke.

  • Reply Favourite July 9, 2019 at 11:25 am


    Option one is not doable for me while option 2 is that kind of option when you take, you will always be looking over your shoulder for the rest of your life….a lot of issues can arise from the inlaws who pushed you to do it, your husband(he will definitely know your pregnancy isn’t his) and the society who wouldn’t let you be(really nothing is hidden) and complications should the child get to know the circumstances of his/her conception….so neither option for me ….

    • Reply TM David-West July 9, 2019 at 4:54 pm

      It’s as if you know what actually happened to someone who took option 2. In her case, her husband knew and encouraged her to do it, but afterwards started accusing her of infidelity, until she was forced to leave with the child.

      Very risky choice to make.

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