Good morning, folks.
I finally came up with a short story idea and we will begin reading next week Tuesday, 9 July 2019.
Meanwhile, I’d love to have your thoughts on this. It’s actually what the short story is about.
Question is: If you have been married to a man for a few years without a child and he is the one with the problem:
- Will you leave him?
- Will you agree with his mother to sleep with another man so as to conceive?
Please, no one should say number two is impossible because I know real life stories where this happened. As a matter of fact, I’ve heard of men, husbands, who ask their wives to go “outside” and conceive for them. They assure the wife she has his permission and would never be accused of adultery.
So, it happens, and if you were in such a position, what would you do? Let me add that your in-laws have no interest in adoption. They think it will be a shame on their son.
Looking forward to hearing from you guys. Cheers.
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It’s serious…… The two option is wrong for me. Am a good Christian and I believe God that there is nothing he can not do…….. On the other hand like you said the two is happening and it’s real. May God not give us what is beyond us
Yes, it’s real and tough. I seriously think it’s not something I can do. In fact, I know I won’t leave a man because it’s his fault, but I might if it’s mine. And this is because I would love to give him the chance to have a child with someone else.
But like you said, we pray God to help us do the right thing always.
Love this
3. I won’t leave him.
2. God gives children, yes. But I will do the second one. It will be the hardest thing for me to do in life but I will.
I will go out and get a child but he will never know of the man. The other man in question won’t know anything about me. I will disguise myself and do it, I will then leave because I want to protect the interest of the child for future purposes.
God forgive me.
1. Both of you can adopt a baby and train and love him or her as your own.
Thank you so much for the honest response. Truly appreciate it.
Won’t do any of the above, I believe there is nothing God cannot do, so I will wait on him.
Waiting on God, a good plan, and hopefully one has the grace to stick to it. Thanks for the contribution, Datoks
No, I won’t leave him.
Naah, I can’t go for the second option either. I’ll stick with him and fight it to the end, believing God all the way. God help us all.
Amen. God help us all. Thanks for the response, Omotola
Child raising is not the only reason for marriage
None of the options above will i choose
God’s time table is the best
Exactly, children isn’t, and shouldn’t be, the primary reason for marriage. Companionship is. And the biggest lesson is learning to wait on God.
Thanks for your response, Iyke.
Ahhh
Option one is not doable for me while option 2 is that kind of option when you take, you will always be looking over your shoulder for the rest of your life….a lot of issues can arise from the inlaws who pushed you to do it, your husband(he will definitely know your pregnancy isn’t his) and the society who wouldn’t let you be(really nothing is hidden) and complications should the child get to know the circumstances of his/her conception….so neither option for me ….
It’s as if you know what actually happened to someone who took option 2. In her case, her husband knew and encouraged her to do it, but afterwards started accusing her of infidelity, until she was forced to leave with the child.
Very risky choice to make.